Hey guys and gals,
I’m finally back in Seoul, and even though I’ve only been here about 2 and a half days… I’m loving it. I’ve met up with friends everyday so far and I have a wedding to go to tomorrow. Life is good.
If you’ve been following me on Twitter or on Instagram you will have seen that I have been suffering from the most SPECTACULAR jet lag I have ever experienced. Even today, I slept through two alarms and woke up at 4:30 in the afternoon.
This concerns me quite a bit as I really REALLY can’t sleep through my alarms tomorrow because I HAVE to be at my friends wedding. It’s the reason I flew out here. And I’m in an unfamiliar city (this is only my second visit here) in an unfamiliar apartment, I’m still not as comfortable with the language as I would like and, I’m not gonna lie, I am so hot and uncomfortable because of the weather and my size. I’m basically a BSG here in Korea, a Big Sweaty Giant. I’m very aware that all of these things might lead me to not feeling my best mentally.
However, I’m not feeling miserable. In fact, I’m actually quite happy. And I think that’s because I have made sure that even in these first few days, I’ve not overwhelmed myself with having to do all the things possible with all the people possible. I’ve made sure to take time for myself and say no to things if I needed. Whether that’s giving myself a day to feel tired and jet lagged and just stay in bed (today) or splashing out just a little bit and having some quality me time while I got my hair done at Juno Hair in Hongdae (thanks to Moon Chae Rin for doing my hair, giving me a discount and for talking me through you hair tips). I knew these first few days were gonna take their toll on me, and I wanted to be sure that I didn’t burn out too fast. So while making sure I do the more obvious and active elements of looking after myself like socialising and exercising and going outside, I am also allowing myself time simple just for me. So I can rest, both physically and mentally.
In Korea it is a social taboo to ever turn down an invitation from someone important or someone more senior than you. It’s considered very rude to do so, unless you have an excuse that takes a higher priority (family issues, health issues, appointments etc). I’ve only been here 3 days and I’ve already had 2 friends say they either couldn’t meet up in the first place or that they had to cancel because someone more senior asked them to go out. Now, I’m not trying to make these people feel guilty cause I didn’t mind, I understood that they had to change their plans accordingly, and neither am I trying to say that what they are doing is bad. What I am saying is that sometimes we all have a tendency to put something else before our ‘own’ time. Whether its work, or friends, or something else, sometimes we feel like we have to say ‘yes’ when we really want to say ‘no’.
Maybe we all need to start thinking of ourselves as someone who is of a high priority. Humans are very prone to over working themselves and pushing too hard. Doing nothing can actually be far more useful for you than trying to do too many things at once. Time for yourself provides healing, rest, reflection, space for doing things that you enjoy and that make you happy. Taking time for yourself is important, so please make sure you are taking that time and using it well.
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